All romantic relationships take time and effort to work. In this article we will discuss the way we can improve our relationships. We can see love as a plant that needs constant watering. Without watering the plant will wither and die. You might ask: “How can we water love?”
HERE WE OFFER 11 WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND MAKE THEM LAST FOREVER:
KEEP YOUR PHONES AWAY (OR AT LEAST KEEP THEM ON SILENT)
Imagine the following situation: Somehow you’ve managed to make a reservation at the fanciest restaurant in town. You’ve ordered your food and an expensive bottle of wine; everything goes just as it was planned. Then your partner answers the phone call and talks for a while. When they are over with their talk, they hang up. But it seems as if the phone is glued to their hands and they keep on scrolling back and forth hypnotized by whatever they see on the social networks. Soon the waiter comes and asks if you would like a dessert and they say that they would, without even looking up from the thing.
A total disaster! I would definitely apply cinema rules here! It is extremely rude to ignore the person you are eating dinner with and it definitely destroys the whole date night.
GO TO SLEEP AT THE SAME TIME
This is intimacy in the real sense of the word. As Erin Leyba of Psychology Today claimed, “When you have different sleep patterns, the connection between the two of you fails.” So what’s so important that you have to do instead of going to bed together with your partner? If it’s unavoidable, like third shift at work, that’s ok. But everything else can wait until tomorrow. So, if you don’t go to bed because of something avoidable, then stop this practice and go to sleep together with your partner! It will make wonders for your relationship.
A SMALL GEST THAT WILL MAKE THEM KNOW YOU LOVE THEM
Making them feel special is nothing new, just a normal thing you should always do. This is where you can set your creativity free. You can do it with a simple message, making them know that you miss them. You can even secretly put a card in their pocket, saying the same thing, it’s really romantic. We know that this may sound too difficult for you but, how about writing a poem? Just try it!
DOING SOMETHING FOR THE FIRST TIME
In this way you will really make your bond stronger. If you’ve never watched Bond movies together, you can rent Quantum of Solace or Octopussy or anything other. Other suggestion is practicing some role play as 007 and Bond Girl, to get out of your comfort zone for a while. The positive thing about all this is that you don’t need to report back to Q afterwards. Just be careful with all those gadgets!
Too much criticizing can kill the “plant.” And in the heat of the moment, it is better to count to ten before you say something that cannot be taken back. Criticism in any form is not accepted! You should give a suggestion how something can be done differently instead of criticizing. This will improve the relationship and your partner will do better in your eyes and you will be happy with the way they do it.
SHOW A LITTLE GRATITUDE
A simple “thank you” can do a lot more than you think for your relationship. Let’s try something just to see how it works. “We are really grateful that you read this article. Thank you for taking out the precious time of your life to read this article, time that you will never get back.” The same applies to relationships. If your partner is investing their time to do something for you so that they make you feel better and you never take the time to say “thank you”, how would they feel? Or if the same thing happened to you, how would you feel?
PAY ATTENTION TO THE POSITIVE THINGS
Try to focus only on the positive things, what does your partner do right? It will make them feel a lot more appreciated in the relationship. Say openly and sincerely what you love about your partner, what they have done to make you feel good, how they have helped you, how they made your day better etc. This is something couples in a stable and happy relationships do daily, regardless of the imperfections on both sides.
Don’t be afraid to express your real feelings and emotions. Not expressing how you really feel is unfair for both of you, making the partners unsure about everything. If it seems to you as if your partner is getting too close to some of their friends of the opposite sex, don’t hide it, tell them straight. It’s the same if they said something that has hurt you even if it was just a joke and they had no idea that it might hurt you. Tact can always be helpful too.
GIVE THEM A PRESENT FOR NO REASON
It doesn’t have to be something expensive, just a little something. But if you really want it to be expensive, I am nobody to stop you! Have in mind that it should only show that you care for them and that you love them. If they are gourmands why don’t you cook their favorite food and show up in front of their door? We are not limiting you, just giving some suggestions. So use your imagination and fill their hearts with joy and happiness.
MAKE PLANS FOR THE HOLIDAYS
Spending a quality time together can totally boost your relationship. There is no need of acting like Phileas Fogg and travel the whole world in 8 days, just a weekend would be more than enough. We are suggesting going to the beach, near some beautiful lake or up in the mountains breathing fresh air. The point is, spending a quality time together and enjoying each other’s company as much as you possibly can.
MAKE YOUR INTENTIONS CLEAR (OVER AND OVER AGAIN)
This is very common when you are at the beginning of the relationship, but what about a few years after that? This is how you’ve become close in the first place, so why would you change that? You should make them fall in love with you over and over again, make them feel loved and special – by implementing all the suggestions above into practice. Do anything just to see them laughing and their eyes sparkling. Is there something more beautiful than seeing in their eyes how much they love you?
Once again, thank you very much for the time you’ve spent reading this article.
Now get up and do something beautiful for your loving partner and make your relationship sparkly and shiny again!